…………… by ric justiss
One important lesson in managing a crisis
is that when your ability to deal with the situation
is limited then you have to set expectations low.
You have to brace those involved for the inevitable
and help them get through those times in as good
a way as possible. Yet you have to make them
understand that they will not have the same kind
of life as before.
If you think your life, family or reputation is in
danger, then it's time to act, whether the problem
is widely known or not. Crises by nature are messy;
often unfolding at a pace that makes careful and considered response difficult.
Sometimes, they stem from unforeseen events, and in retrospect some could
have been predicted, but always they present a test. Everyone will go through
times of crisis. But you can survive if you’ve been hurt by loss or devastation.
Here are some things that will help. You need:
1. Communication Skills - Ask for help. Family and friends will help if they can.
Share what is going on. People you know may have good ideas to help you.
Bring in help, in terms of both resources and perspective. Make sure that those
who need to know are consulted.
2.Commitment - Don’t blame one another for the situation.
3.Smiles - Find something positive in each day. Don’t lose your sense of humor.
4.Understanding - Remind yourselves that this crisis isn’t going to last forever.
Also, you want to react, but not overreact. Don’t let your imagination carry you
into unrealistic fears.
5.Patience - Take it one day at a time.
6.Honesty - Be realistic. Be real about what you can and can’t do in the midst of
It helps to try to put a stressful situation into a broader perspective by reminding
yourself that you're not the only person this has ever happened to or that things
won't seem as dire next week. That can be hugely helpful because it makes you
less emotionally fragile, which makes it easier to deal with the situation at hand.
If the problem isn't solvable, it's better to accept what happened and try to adjust.
If it is you swing into fix-it mode. This can lend a sense of control to at least some
aspects of your life, rather than making you feel like a complete victim of
Sometimes, the best solution isn't to take charge of the situation, but to do
what's emotionally healing for you. Sometimes we need to engage in nurturing
activities that protect us. But if we constantly obsess over a crisis our mood will
plummet, so be careful. Focusing on negative ways of looking at the situation
might make it worse. The key is to realize when to turn off your self-reflective,
analytical style. If it starts to pull you down instead of giving you insight, take a
break and come back to the problem later with a fresh perspective.
Tragedy happens all the time; Plane crashes, traffic accidents, deaths, job
changes, life threatening illnesses, families and couples whose relationships
deteriorate. All of these can bring an individual to a point of crisis. How do we
handle it? Of everything I know, this is the most important thing in handling a
crisis. You must know and believe that the only one who can truly give us
comfort is God. We must understand that God is in charge even in crisis. This
gives the Christian hope. “But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried
me, I shall come forth as gold.” (Job 23:10) Our God has no equal.
Are you facing a crisis in your life right now? The only way to face it is with God. I
hope you are not without Christ in your life. God's desire is to comfort us in all
our trouble. We strive to be grounded in the character of God so that when crisis
comes our way we know to turn to Him. I know, that if you are one of His, He will
never fail you.
God bless. Ric
Oct. 30, 2010